Live By Your

Own Rules

A 30-Day Quest by
Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani

Create The Authentic, Extraordinary, Conscious Life You’ve Always Imagined For Yourself… Starting With Your Rules

Who is this quest for?

This isn’t a quest to convince you on why you should strive for authentic living. This is a quest designed to help propel you there and show up as your authentic self without guilt, and without apology.

What this quest teaches you may not be anything new. How it ingrains and applies the knowledge — as if flipping the switch on breakthroughs that have been lying dormant or trapped within you — is the big trick.

In 30-days, author and instructor Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani delivers key ideas and tasks to methodically declutter your mind and your identity, so that you immediately experience transformation towards the authentic, extraordinary life you desire… one day at a time.

Divided into three parts, “Live By
Your Own Rules” will guide you to:

Step 1:

Look within yourself to understand what kind of human you are, and accept your strengths as well as your weaknesses.

Step 2:

Look at your life and allow yourself the belief that you can lead an extraordinary life and create rules that support it.

Step 3:

Implement new system. Utilize the industry’s leading tools and systems to implement this new system in your life.

When was the last time you:

Felt or thought something that you immediately dismissed as inappropriate or wrong, even though they felt more genuine to who you are?

Experienced the urge to question the norm (whether it’s a belief, an opinion or a situation) but your first reaction was to worry about what people would say?

Felt guilty for not feeling content or for wondering why you weren’t content with life despite all you have?

Yearned so hard for happiness or an ideal outcome that it started to feel more like struggle than desire?

Felt triggered by others who are comfortable in their own skin, because you secretly don’t feel comfortable in yours?

Spent hours in a mental “court battle” with your inner critic just because you wanted to leave your comfort zone?

Felt terrified by the idea of expressing your honest opinions or emotions in fear of not “keeping it together”?

Are you even aware if you’re
honest with yourself?

The problem for many of us isn’t that we don’t understand the value of authenticity or honesty. The problem is that many of us are unaware that we aren’t being authentic and honest with our own selves. We don’t have the courage to dig deep inside ourselves and define our own individual beliefs, values, and needs according to what is true to our own goals and desires. Instead, we end up building our lives and even our personalities by the rules, expectations, and definitions that our society has set for us.

As a result, we feel pressured to “toughen up”, conceal our real feelings and desires, keep up appearances, and tick the boxes on the list of superficial markers prepared for us without question. It doesn’t matter whether you’re from the luxury, holistic, or minimalist camp — or any camp really.

We build that beautiful facade that we convince ourselves is all we need, while we continue to suppress our true selves. And the more we pursue, the less satisfied we seem to become. The more boxes we tick, the more we don’t feel enough, worthy of unconditional love, or truly liberated.

In Live By Your Own Rules quest:

  • You will develop the most important quality for continuous growth and transformation – self-awareness. Without it, your journey to transformation will be like sailing a ship on a foggy night.
  • You will learn to accept yourself fully – not just your perfect facade that you are ready to show to the world, but also your basement and your attic – those dark obscure corners of your self, which many prefer to leave abandoned.
  • You will learn to love yourself . And we are talking about healthy, unconditional and full-hearted love, like you would love your own newborn child.
  • Be more comfortable with uncertainty and change so you can take in every moment as it comes
  • You will learn simple exercises and techniques to find courage to show the world your real authentic self.
  • You will learn healthy ways to deal with your emotions, based in psychology and spiritual practices.
  • Happiness is when you can just Be You. When you don’t need to lie, to pretend, to try, to prove. So you will achieve deeper and more profound sense of happiness.
  • And finally – you will see yourself clearly again. Like when you wipe off a layer of dust from a mirror. And once you remember what it is to be you, you will not be able to “switch it off” again.

What You’ll Learn in
“Live By Your Own Rules”

Part 1 — Look Inside Yourself (Day 1-14)

For the first two weeks, one idea at a time, you’ll explore the beliefs and roles that power your routines, decisions, and emotions and your day to day life.

Highlights Include:

  • Habit of consciousness: Anchor habit of consciousness to everyday rituals. Don’t focus on being perfect, only notice how you are making decisions.

  • The paradox of masks:Notice the masks you put on throughout the day and think what you are hiding.

  • Working with negative feelings:How do you deal with painful emotions? in which areas of your life you feel uncomfortable emotions.

Part 2 — Look at Your Life (Day 15-25)

In week 3, we look at the current rules and beliefs that you are consciously or unconsciously living by and identify which ones you should keep, remove, or completely redefine.

Highlights Include:

  • Assessing Your Beliefs:Are your beliefs absolute or relative? Notice the beliefs that support and don’t support you.

  • Your Beliefs Around Love & Relationships:What are your current beliefs when it comes to love or relationships? What beliefs would you change to create the scenarios that you would like to achieve in that area?

  • Find the Comfort in Discomfort:Write down all the areas of your life and evaluate how happy are you in each of those from 0 to 10.

Part 3 — Systems For Living (Day 26-31)

In the final week, you’ll be given tools and systems to make the changes you need to apply your new beliefs and rules to create your desired life.

Highlights Include:

  • Daily Rituals:Pick an area in your life where you feel you need to grow the most, and design a ritual to honour and fulfill your goal in this area.

  • Overcoming Fears:How to approach the fears you have around how people view you or how you may be viewed.

About Kristina
Mänd-Lakhiani

Kristina is a serial entrepreneur, speaker, mother, philanthropist, everyday-life philosopher, and a woman on her own journey of spiritual growth.

She is also the co-founder of Mindvalley, a global school that delivers transformational education for all ages.

Kristina has been engaged in the personal transformation industry for over 15 years, collaborating and playing with leading thinkers and teachers in consciousness, relationships, human performance, parenting, and life optimisation. As a speaker, she has shared the stage with household names such as Lisa Nichols, Shefali Tsabary, Marisa Peer, and Jay Shetty.

She started her career working for the government of Estonia, where she was born and raised, before joining the nonprofit sector and worked for organisations such as the United Nations, Oxfam, and AIESEC.

In 2009, she launched Mindvalley Russian, taking Mindvalley’s best authors and teachings to the Russian-speaking market.

Throughout her journey, she’s been fortunate to acquire the tools and systems to help make authenticity the heart of her life. Whether it’s starting her own businesses, being active in causes she’s passionate about, going to the places she loves, embracing the virtuous and the “wicked” of her femininity, singing her two kids to sleep, playing the harp or immersing herself in classical literature — Kristina set on taking in and relishing every moment as it comes.

And she invites people to do the same, in their own way.

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How The Quest Works

A 30-Day Journey Designed For Seamless Transformation, Not Just Learning

This isn’t a quest to convince you on why you should strive for authentic living. This is a quest designed to help propel you there and show up as your authentic self without guilt, and without apology.

It’s Designed for Rapidly-Absorbed Learning in
Just 15-20 Minutes A Day

That’s shorter than a workout and less than two snoozes on your phone alarm. This quest uses micro-learning to deliver the right dose of information in small, very specific bursts that launch massive results with minimal effort.

You’ll Experience Deep
Daily Transformation

This quest isn’t about gradually taking you to a big aha moment — each day you are given a key idea and task that you can apply and experience instantly, which means that transformation is constant. See it as continuous expansion with minimal resistance.

You’re On This Quest With
A Global Community

Be part of a global community of students on the same journey, as you empower and support each other from start to finish.You will be given access to the Live By Your Own Rules community, where a dedicated community facilitator and a global community will be there to support you, inspire you, and hold you accountable to your highest success.

What PEOPLE Say

Join the Live By Your
Own Rules Quest

Here’s what you get when
you enroll:

  • Lifetime access to the Live By Your Own Rules 30-day Quest on Mindvalley, the world’s leading learning platform for transformational education and peak human performance.

  • Be part of a global community of students on the same journey, as you empower and support each other from start to finish.

  • Access to a facilitator to guide you and optimize your experience before, during, and after the quest.

  • Lifetime access to our private Live By Your Own Rules community.

enroll now

Access the quest on all supported digital devices: Android, iOs, Apple TV, Desktop and tablet.

$349 $249

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After I Order?

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Frequently Asked

(Yet Unconventional) Questions

+ What’s so important about being authentic?
How is that going to make me a better human being?

There’s a reason why even those who are seemingly successful and living an Instagram-worthy life still struggle to be content or genuinely happy despite everything they’ve accomplished. And before you judge — it doesn’t matter whether you’re from the luxury, holistic, or minimalist camp; or any camp really. Most of us end up building our lives and even our personalities by the rules, expectations, and definitions set by our respective societies or peers. As a result, we create that beautiful facade that we convince ourselves is all we need, while we continue to suppress our true selves. And the more we pursue, the less satisfied we seem to become. The more boxes we tick, the more we don’t feel enough, worthy of unconditional love, or truly liberated. It is only when you’re honest with yourself that you can build and enjoy the life that you love — and become more conscious, authentic, and truly content in the actions, decisions, and contributions your make in every area of your life.

+ I’m a pretty authentic person and I’ve always been honest with myself.
Should I just skip this Quest?

Many of us are unaware that we aren’t being authentic and honest with our own selves. Until we have the courage to really dig deep inside and define our own individual beliefs, values, and needs according to what is true to our own goals, we will always experience inner friction and discontent — such as the ones listed on this page. What this quest teaches you may not be anything new. How it ingrains and applies the knowledge — as if flipping the switch on breakthroughs that have been lying dormant or trapped within you — is the big trick. In 31-days, you’ll discover key ideas and tasks to methodically declutter your mind and your identity, so that you immediately experience transformation towards the state of contentment and authenticity that you desire... one day at a time.

+ All this talk about discomfort and getting out of the comfort zone is triggering me and making me uncomfortable. What if I don’t like it?

Change, confrontation, and conflict cause discomfort in anyone. If we already struggle with honest communication with others (eek!), it’s not surprising that we want to avoid doing it with our own selves. But ultimately, the reward on the other side — where truth, awareness and release await — is the liberation. We want to assure you that feeling stuck or uncomfortable, as you experience and transform during this Quest, is completely normal. In fact, it is a good indicator that the inner switch has been flipped open: your mind is now aware, and the good work has already started. That is the small but powerful seed of transformation. But it is important that you also apply the tools and techniques taught in this Quest, to help you adjust and adapt quickly and smoothly. We’ll leave you with this charming analogy from one wise Dr. Abraham Twerski: “The lobster’s a soft mushy animal that lives inside of a rigid shell. That rigid shell does not expand. (As) the lobster grows, that shell becomes very confining, and the lobster feels itself under pressure and uncomfortable. It goes under a rock formation to protect itself from predatory fish, casts off the shell, and produces a new one. The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable. Now, if lobsters had doctors, they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable, (it) goes to the doctor, gets a Valium, gets a Percocet, feels fine, never casts off his shell. I think that we have to realize that times of stress are also times that are signals for growth.”

+ What qualifies Kristina to teach me about how to live by my own rules?

Through her work with Mindvalley and Mindvalley Russian, Kristina has been professionally and personally engaged in the personal transformation industry for over 15 years, collaborating with leading thinkers and teachers in consciousness, relationships, human performance, parenting, and life optimisation. She designed the Live By Your Own Rules Quest based on her own experience of questioning the “perfect” life she had built, and her journey of finding courage and fulfillment in showing up as her authentic self… which she continues to work on. With her cut-to-the-chase, no BS, and honest approach, Kristina has distilled her own process into a lean 31-day sequence of steps to help people get there gradually yet systematically, instead of spending time and energy helplessly searching across a global vault of resources for the answers.

+ Will I still have access to the daily trainings once it’s over?

Absolutely. Once you’ve completed Live By Your Own Rules, you get full lifetime access to every part of it – so you’re free to revisit different portions and brush up on specific techniques or lessons as often as you like. You can even choose to retake the Quest as you would re-read a good book: you get to discover new things you didn’t notice, and deepen your learning each time.

Join the Live By Your
Own Rules Quest

Here’s what you get when
you enroll:

  • Lifetime access to the Live By Your Own Rules 30-day Quest on Mindvalley, the world’s leading learning platform for transformational education and peak human performance.

  • Be part of a global community of students on the same journey, as you empower and support each other from start to finish.

  • Access to a facilitator to guide you and optimize your experience before, during, and after the quest.

  • Lifetime access to our private Live By Your Own Rules community.

enroll now

Access the quest on all supported digital devices: Android, iOs, Apple TV, Desktop and tablet.

$349 $249

add to cart

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